Please Welcome Cheviot Chevonne!

Meet Cheviot Chevonne. She is your Cheviot Gazette personal life coach. We guarantee she can not possibly screw your life up more than it already is. Please, don’t be shy, go ahead and write to:

Chevonne@cheviotgazette.com

.. and Chevonne will gladly answer your request in our next paper! Now let’s hear from our first victim.. I mean, our first write-in:

Dear Cheviot Chevonne, I’ve recently started seeing someone that I usually wouldn’t consider my type. He is kind and charming enough, but also a bit of a wild card. I mean that in the most endearing of ways, but I am concerned that he has a lot of baggage. I am a repeat offender of dating people that are not good for me and I sometimes ignore my intuition and succumb to infatuation. This time around, I want to be wiser about it. I am not sure how to go about that. I don’t want to cut off something with potential too quickly, but how do I know if it is a good match or if I am just walking into another land mine? Please help me know what to do, so I don’t detonate a bad relationship, yet again. – Avoiding Bombs in Bridgetown

Dear Avoiding Bombs, When it comes to dating my biggest suggestion is to proceed with caution. I applaud you for putting yourself out there and pursuing the opportunity for love with someone regardless of type. To be quite honest I don’t believe in types. Sure, the necessary attraction is a plus, but you just never know who the best match might be when finding a partner. I always refer to Marie’s advice from “When Harry Met Sally,” "All I'm saying is that somewhere out there is the man you are supposed to marry. And if you don't get him first, somebody else will, and you'll have to spend the rest of your life knowing that somebody else is married to your husband." Being open-minded to a new partner is always vital to success in dating and you are on the right path. Secondly, as far as baggage is concerned, we all have it and you just must find someone whose baggage you are willing to open, unfold, and neatly pack away with your own. Now, by no means am I suggesting you ignore the red flags and you do not want to mute your gut instincts. Listen with cautious optimism. It is important to continuously remind yourself of your standards. Consider what your deal-breakers are and look at your potential mate for what they are, not what they “could” be or what you would “like” them to be. People are only human, but we are what we are. Accept his or her reality and be honest with yourself. By doing this you will be able to offer honesty to those you date. Honestly end things based on your needs and you will avoid potential drama exploding in your face. There are no rules to dating but with careful consideration, perhaps a pros and cons list, you can dismantle any bomb on your own and if you have a strong group of friends consider them your bomb squad. Call for backup! Sincerely, Cheviot Chevonne

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